Don’t want to start off sounding like a negative Nellie, but first of all, a word of warning. Threesomes can be absolutely fantastic, and help take both a sex life and a relationship to a higher level.
However, they can also be an incredibly destructive force which does long term harm to your self confidence, and they have also been known to be a real relationship ender.
Examine your motivation in choosing to have a threesome…are you both truly prepared for the experience? It is one thing to fantasise about it, and even talk openly about it. But the reality of the situation can be an entirely different matter.
How will you feel seeing your partner in sexual contact with another person? What about your partner? If there is any insecurity in your relationship, forget about it. If there is any obvious or even suspected jealousy, forget about it.
It is not worth jeopardizing your entire relationship for a threesome before you are both truly ready, or chasing fleeting thrills if your relationship is not one that, when closely examined, can stand the realities of a ménage a trois. Okay, lecture over.
In my opinion, threesomes at their best can just about be the most thrilling sex act possible. Be careful about who you and your partner choose to be your “guest”. Don’t make it a close friend; also be careful about making it a complete stranger. Both have dangers, and potentially disastrous consequences.
I have found acquaintances make the best guests, as there is already some comfort in being with them, but they are not generally within your “inner circle”. If there are no candidates, go with the option of a stranger but be as careful as you possibly can be.
You can meet someone through internet dating sites, swing clubs or personal ads. But please remember…be careful. Take what precautions you can to make sure, as much as possible, you are not inviting a psycho to play. That includes meeting them in a safe and neutral venue before the event so you can work out if they are someone you and your partner will feel comfortable with.
On the evening you elect for the threesome to occur, set the scene carefully. You want to create an inviting, comfortable and warm environment…if that means your home then so be it but as I warned earlier, give this serious consideration if you are inviting a stranger in. Of the threesomes I have had, there have not been any problems, but then again you can never be too careful.
I suggest to begin the evening with some drinks and small talk; this will help put everyone at ease and relax. Under no circumstances get drunk however; you might be able to let go of your inhibitions but your senses and coordination will be dulled, and the next morning when you wake up with a cracking hangover there will unavoidably be some feelings of regret and negativity associated with the previous evening.
The lead up is always one of my favorite parts of a super sexy evening…the anticipation of what is to come. Who will move first? How will it begin? These questions will have the butterflies in your belly fluttering like never before, and when the action finally does start it will be one of the most exciting moments of your life.
Threesomes generally can be enacted in one or a combination of three ways – two onto one, all three with each other and two together with one watching. Each one of those options has its strengths and shortcomings, and however you choose to go about it make sure you have fully discussed it with your partner and guest before hand. You don’t want the occasion ruined because of poor communication, or misplaced expectations.
Once you have begun, go with the flow, and really enjoy the sensations. I love combining each of the three different variations, but then again I am…well, shall I say a seasoned veteran…and I long ago shed the last of my inhibitions or feelings of insecurity about any relationship.
One important point I recommend is that if you are all getting into the fun together, to make sure you and your partner spend at least as much time with each other as you do with your guest. If one partner ignores or excludes the other in favor of fully playing with the guest, then that is more often than not a sure fire guarantee that some jealousy may creep into the occasion.
Of course, the levels and interaction of play depend on whether you and your partner are bisexually inclined. Don’t force anything, or do something solely to please the other. Everything must be natural, and based in positivity and fun.
I would really recommend that a threesome be something that everyone should be able to enjoy at least once in their lives…it is an incredible and thrilling experience when it works.
Also, a woman should be able to enjoy two men if she is willing to participate with another woman for the main pleasure of her male partner. Two men can be absolutely scintillating, especially if you are the sole focus of both of their attention (which generally in 2 guy/1 girl threesomes is the case, as men by percentage are less inclined to bisexuality or experimentation with another man).
Finally, have it pre-arranged that the guest cleans themselves up and leaves as soon after the threesome as possible. Don’t exactly throw them out the door, but you really want to enjoy the increased intimacy that naturally occurs after such an intensely pleasurable experience for you and your partner as soon as possible. This is another of the best parts of the occasion.
Overall, don’t take a threesome lightly, but if you feel like your relationship is capable of successfully dealing with the many issues that surround the subject, it can be a way to truly sexually evolve, with positive outcomes for you as a woman, and for your relationship as a whole. Tread carefully, but have fun!
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